How letting go mindset breaks perfectionisim
This post is for the perfectionists. For those who are hard with themselves. For those who sabotage, overthink, and criticise themselves from the minute they wake up until they fall asleep.
Why the hell are we so hard with ourselves? Do we have hard time confronting errors? failures? mistakes? Do we wish to always have the best result on the first shot no matter what? How is this obsession with nail it down, right away manage us?
Being overwhelmed from worries
Yesterday at work, I got to a peak with my worries, my overthinking, double-guessing, insecurity. I needed a break. I went upstairs, to see the city from above, to see the skies, to take a few breaths, then I sat down and wrote myself:
What if i’ll just accept everything? I’ll accept my fears, my worries, my insecurities, my self-doubt. What if i’ll just accept the feedback from my manager? my parents? my colleagues? What if i’ll just accept the direction we go even though I don’t fully agree? What if i’ll just accept that I have hard time articulating my thoughts?
I don’t want to be turn into a passive person. That’s not the idea. Somehow, I found a relief. Because this is not about just accepting things, it’s about letting go, don’t connect too emotionally to everything around you. It’s about letting go so you can stop overthinking, stop self-doubting and start moving, start doing, start trying.
It’s hard to let go!!!!
Letting go is a practice, hard one. We are attached to how we live, to what we think, and to the work we do. We are triggered by different subjects. We afraid to let go because we afraid to lose control.
However, letting go is a powerful mindset. It gives you the ability to respond naturally. It’s helps you shut down the worries because you get a perspective - it’s not a life or dead situation. It’s ok to just try stuff out, to test a direction. and It’s even ok to afraid of executing that direction and to double guess it.
The paradox of accepting and letting go
Accepting all your worries, help you letting go from them. Paradoxically, when you start to let go, that’s when things start moving in the direction you want. That’s when you figure out stuff and do things from curiosity and not from being scared and worried.
So to let go, start by listing all your worries, fears, issues, list them all, then for each, ask yourself, what if i’ll just let go from holding it so hard? And start practicing letting go.
